The cord cutting ritual has been making waves on TikTok for a while now, with countless videos showing how this simple yet powerful practice can help you release unwanted ties. While it might seem like just another trend, this ritual is rooted in ancient traditions and can be a truly meaningful way to let go of connections that no longer serve you. The best part? It’s easy to do at home, and you don’t need any fancy tools — just a couple of candles, some string, and a clear intention.
I first came across this ritual when I was looking for a way to end a complicationship that had been dragging on for far too long. You know the type — where things are never quite clear, and you’re left feeling more confused than anything else (he was a Pisces, so if you know, you know). I wanted something more than just talking things out; I needed a way to symbolically and energetically release the bond that had been weighing me down. That’s when I decided to try the cord cutting ritual, and I’ve never looked back.
Today, I’m going to walk you through the steps of performing a cord cutting ritual with just two candles tied together. It’s a simple process, but it can be incredibly powerful when done with intention and care. Whether you’re dealing with a complicated relationship, a lingering emotional attachment, or just want to clear out some old energy, this ritual can help you find the closure and peace you’re looking for.
Understanding Cord Cutting.
What Is Cord Cutting?
Cord cutting is a practice that involves severing the energetic ties or ‘cords’ that connect you to someone or something. These cords are often formed through relationships, emotional attachments, or past experiences. While some cords can be positive, providing support and love, others may drain your energy, keep you stuck in the past, or create an unhealthy attachment.
Why Use Two Candles?
In this particular ritual, the use of two candles symbolises the connection between you and the person or situation you’re cutting ties with. The candles represent both parties, and as the ritual progresses, the burning candles will eventually sever the physical and energetic connection. This method is a powerful way to visualise and manifest the release, making it tangible and real.
When to Perform a Cord Cutting Ritual
A cord cutting ritual can be performed whenever you feel the need to release an energetic tie that’s holding you back. It’s especially effective during waning moon phases, which are traditionally associated with letting go and releasing. However, you can perform the ritual whenever you feel ready to move on from a particular situation or person.
The Cord Cutting Ritual.
Preparing for the Ritual.
Gathering Your Tools.
Before you begin, gather the following items:
- Two candles (preferably white or black for protection and cleansing)
- A piece of string or twine (not synthetic – opt for materials like hemp)
- A lighter or matches
- A fireproof dish or surface
- Optional: Essential oils or herbs for anointing the candles
Ensure you have a quiet, undisturbed space where you can focus on the ritual. This could be your altar, a dedicated sacred space, or simply a calm area in your home.
Setting Your Intention.
Take a few moments to centre yourself and set your intention for the ritual. Reflect on the person or situation you wish to release, and be clear about why you want to sever this energetic tie. Your intention is the foundation of the ritual, so it’s essential to approach it with honesty and clarity.
Anointing the Candles.
If you’re using essential oils or herbs, now is the time to anoint your candles. As you do this, infuse the candles with your intention, focusing on the release and freedom you seek. You might choose oils like lavender for peace, rosemary for protection, or frankincense for spiritual cleansing. Anoint the candles from the base to the wick, symbolising the upward movement of your intention.
Performing the Ritual.
Tying the Candles Together.
Begin by tying the two candles together with the string or twine. The knot you create represents the bond between you and the other party or situation. As you tie the knot, speak or think about the connection you’re addressing. Acknowledge the impact this connection has had on your life, both positive and negative.
Lighting the Candles.
Once the candles are tied together, light them with your matches or lighter. As the flames ignite, visualise the energetic connection between you and the other party being illuminated. This is the moment to fully embrace the connection before releasing it. Feel the warmth of the flames and allow yourself to acknowledge any emotions that arise.
Focusing on the Release.
As the candles burn, focus on the release. Visualise the cord that connects you to the other person or situation slowly dissolving. You may want to speak affirmations or prayers that resonate with your intention, such as “I release you with love” or “I free myself from this bond.” Allow the flames to do their work, trusting that the release is happening on a deep energetic level.
Completing the Ritual.
Allowing the Candles to Burn.
Allow the candles to burn until the string or twine catches fire and breaks, symbolising the severing of the connection. As the string burns away, feel the release in your own energy. You may feel lighter, more at peace, or even emotional as the ritual completes. Let the candles burn down completely, or extinguish them if you feel the ritual is complete.
Disposing of the Remains
Once the ritual is finished, it’s important to dispose of the remains with intention. You can bury the candle stubs and ashes in the earth, return them to nature, or dispose of them in a way that feels respectful and aligned with your practice. This final act symbolises the completion of the release and the return of the energy to the earth.
Grounding and Reflection
After the ritual, take time to ground yourself. You might want to meditate, take a ritual bath, or simply sit in silence to reflect on the experience. Notice any shifts in your energy, thoughts, or emotions. This is a time to integrate the release and honour the work you’ve done.
Final Thoughts.
As trends come and go, the cord cutting ritual has proven its staying power for a reason. It’s a simple way to honour and release the connections that no longer serve us. In a world where we’re constantly bombarded with new techniques and quick fixes, this ritual stands out for its timeless effectiveness. Whether you’re saying goodbye to a complicationship, like I did, or simply ready to move on from old patterns, the act of lighting those candles and watching the cord burn away can bring a deep sense of closure and peace.
What I love most about this ritual is its versatility and accessibility. You don’t need to be a seasoned witch or have a full-blown altar to perform it. All you need is the willingness to let go and the intention to move forward. It’s a practice that can be as simple or elaborate as you want, making it a perfect fit for anyone looking to release the past and create space for new beginnings.
Remember, the true power of this ritual lies in your intention. As you perform the cord cutting, trust that you are making the right choice for your well-being. Give yourself permission to release what’s been holding you back and embrace the freedom that comes with it. The energy you create during this ritual will continue to unfold long after the candles have burned out, guiding you towards a more peaceful and empowered state of being.
